. 26 years old . singapore .
. music lover . loves movies n dramas . reading .
. singing . cycling . pool . travelling . sleeping .
. emotional . worrier . shy . adventurous . weird, lol .
Thursday, February 16, 2006
Gotta find a balance
we hear so often when friends grumble that their partners are being too possessive, too controlling, causing them to have inadequate breathing space. so what about people like me, who's usually more accomodating and not possessive? people tend to feel i'm nonchalant.. sigh.
i'm a reserved person. i'm not very expressive with displays of affection. people may thus find i'm not loving. how then would my partner know what i'm thinking and how i feel? i understand... this is not the first time i'm hearing these 'complaints'. i've heard it before from some of my ex-es too, haaa. sigh. sigh.
i guess we just gotta find a balance in everything. not too much of this, not too much of that.
on the other hand, friends usually find me being tooo nice to my partners. that i'm spoiling them, that i give too much. i mean, who doesn't want to see their partner happy right? if its within my means and limitations, why not? i feel having too many expectations and being calculative in a relationship will do nothing but start destroying the relationship. you're constantly counting if you're receiving enough from what you've given. isn't that sooo tiring? i'm not very confident, i just find all these issues taxing.
a relationship which i try not to look far ahead. a relationship which still lacks the trust in both parties. yet, in every way i'm going deeper into it, putting alot of effort into it.. i fear too, but currently, i'm happy. we have different threshold for different people. yours being exceptionally high. just want you to know that i'm not indifferent, i do care.
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